You Can’t Sit With Us!

OK, I’m just going to get to the point here. Sometimes, okay a lot of time lately this little app has got me feeling like I’m just not good enough. I feel like I don’t belong on there anymore. Like I sometimes need to escape from what used to be my escapism.

A few days back I had 3 days social media free. So what I hear you say? For someone that sets their alarm to post during ‘peak time’ of a morning to post before a long day at the office and spends possibly up to 3 + hours a day (I know right) on three different Instagram accounts it’s kind of a big deal. I felt liberated & dare I say it, felt more like the old me! I texted friends I hadn’t spoken to in a while, rang my mum, and spent more time outdoors.

I never set out to become a ‘blogger’ or ‘content creator’ (gosh these descriptions do make me cringe) it just kind of happened. With my sometimes ‘shy when you first meet me’ exterior, really daft scouse sense of humour & love of pink and all things quirky, I felt like I had a place here. Like people got me & liked what I like.

I want to highlight how fortunate I am that I have met some amazing people on the gram, on the whole this little community is incredible. Over this last year or so I have even been lucky enough to call it a second job however it isn’t all fancy brunches, candles and make up samples.

Recently I feel as though I have been transported back to the High School playground. Everywhere I seem to look there are cliques or groups who give off the ‘you can’t sit with us’ vibe. These groups are close knit and stick together – reposting and shouting each other out. The first ones to comment on each other’s posts. Why even follow others? Where’s the social to your media?

I get we all have good friends on here (I don’t know what I would do without Amy – @littlehouseinlondon). I have also made an amazing local group of Liverpool friends, however I speak to them via whatsapp and in person, not just via Instagram.

Something else I have never understood is why do people feel the need to categorise accounts and get judgey too? A blogger once made me feel so inadequate because I was a just ‘house account’ in her eyes. Hold on a moment – there is a person behind that page, and one you have met – yep even that didn’t win her over.

Interiors? Mums? Fashion? All of those things are relevant to me – just because I mainly post images of us in my home (as I said I don’t get out much), doesn’t mean I can’t raise my opinion on breast feeding or potty training. Just because I am not a travel blogger it doesn’t mean I can’t post pictures of my latest vacation.

Post what you love, it’s YOUR account.

 

Anyway I have said my piece. So what I am going to do about it? Make some changes I think. I am just going to enjoy it, and if that joy ceases, click right out of the APP. It’s only Instagram.

I will unfollow accounts that make me feel rubbish and find new ones that enhance my time on social media & inspire me to be the best version of me.

 

Can you relate? To anyone that feels the same please know you aren’t alone. And you know what? You CAN sit with me.

Love Lucy X

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36 Comments

  1. February 26, 2019 / 7:30 pm

    Very well said Lucy, well written and heartfelt. Big hugs. Amy x

    • itslucyblog
      Author
      February 28, 2019 / 7:56 am

      Thanks darling xx

  2. Lydia Spencer
    February 26, 2019 / 7:31 pm

    On Wednesdays we must wear pink though, ok?! Love this blog post Lucy. You’ve summed things up so well – it is only an app and we should support each other. Xx

    • itslucyblog
      Author
      February 26, 2019 / 7:42 pm

      Thanks Lydia! Haha always! Totally agree! Xx

    • Natalia (marks_and_rowe_interiors)
      February 26, 2019 / 11:28 pm

      I love this post Lucy! You can certainly sit with me lovely lady xxx

      • itslucyblog
        Author
        February 28, 2019 / 7:55 am

        Thanks so much gorgeous! And you with me xx

  3. Elle
    February 26, 2019 / 7:40 pm

    There’s a mum group in my city and “You can sit with us” is their mantra. Everyone is welcome, I don’t like the cliques you see on here and only follow those that I love and would most likely enjoy their company in real life!

    I’m glad you’re finding your mojo again xx

    • itslucyblog
      Author
      February 26, 2019 / 7:41 pm

      That sounds wonderful! Thank you for reading. xx

  4. Lisa
    February 26, 2019 / 8:12 pm

    I couldn’t agree with those words of yours more! I’m quite new to instagram and connecting to blogs, I even feel shy! I use it as an escape or just for a bit of company when life is busy and a cuppa and sit down scrolling through is just quite needed, thank you I felt so compelled to read this today and made me feel so much more confident , and ‘normal’ what ever normal is …!
    Really and truly there are so many times I often feel not good enough , or judged by others that I doubt myself and feel less than confident, ( which does shock some people) but I’m only human and have insecurities that even a smile can’t hide. 🤗

    • itslucyblog
      Author
      February 26, 2019 / 8:52 pm

      Thanks so much for taking the time to read and comment. What we need to remember is that we ARE good enough! xx

  5. Dominique
    February 26, 2019 / 9:09 pm

    Such a great post, by an account I’d never thought I’d read this on. (As in you have so many followers and I love your content!)
    I’ve been thinking the same over the last year. I have practically given up posting as I’m not with the in crowd, I have a small following and have thought about deleting my account but haven’t as I’m too nosey.
    Just do you and you are 110% good enough xx

    • itslucyblog
      Author
      February 26, 2019 / 9:15 pm

      Thanks so much for taking the time to read and comment on my post. Although not nice, it’s reassuring to feel we aren’t alone. We’ve got this! And we are good enough! Please DM me on insta so I can find you! Xx

  6. February 26, 2019 / 10:19 pm

    Hi Lucy, you speak so much sense and I think lots of us can relate to you and what you’re saying. Keep doing what you’re doing as long as it makes you happy, otherwise what’s the point when life is so busy xx

    • itslucyblog
      Author
      February 28, 2019 / 7:55 am

      Thank you. Sad to hear others feeling it but reassuring to know not alone xx

  7. February 27, 2019 / 12:00 am

    Oh Lucy you’ve captured this so well!! I’ve been blogging and instagramming for a while and last year because of some other crap I was going through, I let a few pathetic trolls get to me who DMed asking why I was posting non-interiors stuff to “just a house account”. I then ended up separating my accounts out, keeping @linsdrabwellhome for the obvious and everything else separate. And it made me happy, temporarily. Recently I’ve got my mojo back and am now ditching my separate account. I’ve fallen in love with insta all over again, mainly though the fierce love and support of all the little accounts. Now I’ll post what I want to make ME happy!! And give love to PEOPLE and not just perfectly coiffed grid pictures xx

    • itslucyblog
      Author
      February 28, 2019 / 7:54 am

      I love your account! Keep being you! Xx

  8. Jp clark
    February 27, 2019 / 7:32 am

    Hi Lucy. Well, I am definitely coming to sit at your table if you’ll have me? Such a good blog post. Please ignore all the cliques, there’s so many wonderful, kind people on Insta too. I think your beez-neez! Jp xxxx

    • itslucyblog
      Author
      February 28, 2019 / 7:54 am

      Thank you JP! You are too kind! Think people need to remember not to take IG so seriously! Xx

  9. Louise
    February 27, 2019 / 8:26 am

    You’ve summed up what I’ve been thinking for a while now … I’m just a ‘follower’ … love interiors and fashion and I have to say that the cliques are so very obvious these days … they all do the same ‘ads’ at the same bloody time … same follow shout outs … it’s jyst bloody annoying! Keep being you … who wants to sit with the supper popular and usually mean girls anyway !!

    • itslucyblog
      Author
      February 28, 2019 / 7:54 am

      Thank you so much for the lovely comment. xx

  10. Monica
    February 27, 2019 / 6:32 pm

    Lovely post Lucy! I am so glad I read it. I have to say, you’re not the only one who have said something similar. I love your account, your posts and all. It should be enjoyable, to you and everyone else. Post what you want, do what makes you happy! Live your life. I think a lot of people are getting completely lost on Instagram or social media. Like you said it’s only Instagram. Life will still be there with or without social media! Once upon a time there was no social media and people were still happy! Imagine that! Xxx

    • itslucyblog
      Author
      February 28, 2019 / 7:53 am

      Thanks so much for lovely comment! So true! Wise words. Happy Thursday xx

  11. Amy
    February 27, 2019 / 7:10 pm

    Love it! Very well said Hun… keep doing what you’re doing 🙌🏻💕😘 xxx

  12. Carla
    February 27, 2019 / 10:29 pm

    What a great write up! I set up my interiors page on instagram just 4 weeks ago and I have been seeing what you have described, beautifully written and well put lady! I’d love to sit with you x

    • itslucyblog
      Author
      February 28, 2019 / 7:53 am

      Thanks so much! Anytime! You got this xx

    • itslucyblog
      Author
      February 28, 2019 / 7:56 am

      Thank you and me with you! Xx

  13. Helen Boyd
    February 28, 2019 / 8:07 am

    I am just a tiny account, and TBH I just don’t bother posting any more. I rarely come on here, because if I want to see endless The White Company and bloody watch ads then I will flick through a magazine. Insta used to be such a lovely place, but now it’s just tiresome x

  14. Jo
    February 28, 2019 / 10:25 pm

    Hi Lucy, followed a link to your blog posted by Amy @littlehouseinlondon as I love her account, you’ve hit the nail right on the head, I’m only a small account but already getting the vibes about the cliques, had a moment of madness where I thought I wanted to be in their gang but had a word with myself and realised that it really isn’t why I started my account, I’m very much about posting whatever makes me happy and if someone else likes it then brilliant, if not then scroll on by hun! Keep doing you and never mind the bollocks 🤣

  15. Anna (DUSTANDDAYDREAMING)
    March 1, 2019 / 8:10 am

    Very well said Lucy :). Love your gorgeous account! At the end of the day, Instagram is supposed to be fun and the minute it stops being fun, it no longer serves its purpose! Xxx

  16. Pauline Winch
    March 1, 2019 / 2:49 pm

    Lucy you can sit with me any time flower. I know what you mean even though i haven’t been on here that long the odd time ive been made to feel im not good enough. Its ok when they want your likes or comments to boast their figures up, but you get nothing back. Im on here for a few reasons and i enjoy the chatter and interaction, and sometimes when im at work it saves my sanity. If some of the people are making you feel like that lovely then they are not worth your time of day. Your a beautiful young women, with an amazing family and a stunning home. You hold your head up high because in my book your an inspiration and a star. Xxxx

  17. Katie Monkhouse
    March 1, 2019 / 9:52 pm

    100% feel this…

  18. Amy
    March 2, 2019 / 9:22 am

    Hi Lucy,

    Yep I hear ya, I feel like an outsider! Think I need to take break too! Xx

  19. Emma Potter
    March 3, 2019 / 2:35 pm

    Hello Lucy
    Having read your blog I have a thousand thoughts to share with you but I’ll try to condense them! I only came across your Insta a/c recently as I am a newcomer and I was very impressed not only by the content but also by the work, creativity, consistency and general dedication that you have to it. These are many skills indeed. Not to mention your wonderful photo challenge.
    There is a huge variation of accounts on Instagram all of which hit different buttons and yours has grown great attention, a huge achievement to be proud of. However with the good often comes the bad, the “playground” behaviour. It’s part of society, always will be, from school to college to work to the school gate and more. Every circle seems to have it.
    I believe it comes from the desire for approval and self esteem. In short the problem is always with the other person and not you. Stay strong. You’re pretty damn cool!
    Emma

    • itslucyblog
      Author
      March 4, 2019 / 9:12 pm

      Wise words for a Monday. Thank you so much Emma xx

  20. Dana Reed
    March 30, 2019 / 5:42 pm

    Hi Lucy. I am a newbie to Instagram and just started posting. I get so inspired and entertained by the house, travel and fashion ideas. But, I was starting to doubt what I was posting…not relevant for the masses, home not up to IG par, grid not exciting enough. So happy to have read this today and found you! You are right, it is MY account to post what makes ME happy. I look forward to reading more of your posts and adventures. Thank you. 🇨🇦❤️

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